F’s for a Happy Marriage – Part – 3

I had written seven F’s of a Happy Marriage on September 15 and nine on October 12. Here are some more

17. Frank:
Marital relationship is where the partners must feel safe to speak their mind with due consideration to the other’s feeling, without compromising their own views. When the communication is not frank it hinders in the development of closeness and deep understanding of each other’s inner self.

18. Facilitator:
When choosing our life partner, we must, as the Prophet (SAW) advised, look for a practising Muslim as such a persons’ goal is the pleasure of Allah which makes them an excellent facilitator (someone who makes things easy). In essence, the couple facilitates their family’s commitment to Allah and His Deen.

19. Honest Flattery:
Paying compliments and indulging in honest flattery is an inexpensive way to win spouse’s heart. Everyone likes to be appreciated and noticed. So being stingy about compliments is actually depriving oneself of being appreciated in return.

20. Fulfilling:
To be in love means to give one’s all. The heart does not put conditions or make stipulations. It gives without expecting anything in return. Such selfless giving is always rewarded tenfold.

21. Fallible:
Sometimes our expectations are so high that we lose focus of the fact that we are fallible (not perfect/make mistakes) beings. When couples start to nitpick and demand the impossible they must remind themselves that only Allah is perfect.

22. Fondness:
So many times couples fail to work on developing fondness for each other by failing to see their spouses as people through the eyes of their respective friends. Spending quality time alone doing and sharing activities are ways in which one can develop fondness.

23. Planning:
Smart couples plan for their future together. They work on their financial and retirement plans, make wills and discuss these plans with their children. This provides peace of mind and secures the relationship

To Be Your Best Self

The good you find in others, is in you too.
The faults you find in others, are your faults as well.
After all, to recognize something you must know it.
The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.
The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.
The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.

Sometime You must do it at First

It is very commonly said, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

But “If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you.” — Francis Roberts

Some Wise Quotes

“Injustice is relatively easy to bear; what stings is justice.” — H.L. Mencken

“By and large, language is a tool for concealing the truth.” –George Carlin

“If you’re looking for friends when you need them…it’s too late.” — Mark Twain

Facts of life

Everyone always tell their friends they will be ‘Friends Forever,’ but how often does that last?
They might be best friends one year, pretty good friends the next year, do not talk that often the next year, and do not want to talk at all the years after that.

So, one must say to the friend, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life, I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you.

Remember, everyone needs a friend someday you might feel like you have no friends at all, just remember this post and take comfort in knowing somebody out there who cares about you and always will.

Friends

Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back.

Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives and problems that we may not even notice that we have let them fly away.

Sometimes we are so caught up in who is right and who is wrong that we forget what is right and wrong.

Sometimes we just do not realize what real friendship means until it is too late.

Life’s Struggle

If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.

One thing you can not recycle is wasted time.
Ideas won’t work unless ‘you’ do.
Your mind is like a parachute…it functions only when open.
The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what you might have been

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one’s who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

What is Jealousy

Jealousy is a disease of the heart. It is, perhaps, one of the oldest problems of human beings.

*Causes of Jealousy*

1-*Enmity:* One has animosity for a person or group and does not want to see anything good happen to that person or group.

2-*Ambition:** *It hurts a person to see someone else ahead or above him/her.

3-*Pride and Arrogance**:* When a person is self conceited and arrogant, he/she feels very jealous to see anyone else going ahead or doing better.

4-*Astonishment:* Some time a person feels astonished that another person could do better than him/her. He/she feels surprised: ‘How come that person became so rich, so successful, so popular, etc.?’

5 -*Fear**:* Fear that if another person would have such and such thing, then he/she may not have it.

6 -*Desire for power and prestige:* Sometimes a person becomes jealous because he/she want to make one great by putting others down.

7 -*Evil nature and avarice of the heart:* Some people just do not like to see others happy. They want to see the whole world in misery and difficulty except their own selves.

Normally jealousy occurs among people who know each other. It happens among siblings, among family members, people of the same profession and age.

*”Do not be jealous of each other, do not boycott each other, do not hate each other, do not contrive against each other. Be all of you brothers to each other.*