Strategy ? ? ?

Better strategy is:

Demand less, and instead, have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
"I would prefer this, but if that happens, it’s OK too!"

This is really a change in mindset.
It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind.

You prefer that people are polite …
but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.
You prefer sunshine …
but if it rains, it is ok too!

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18 thoughts on “Strategy ? ? ?

  1. Yes thats very true indeed. Also, I believe that we cause all the bad things in our lives ourselves. We have the choice of being happy and unhappy, but mostly people choose to be unhappy. I guess people havent realized that they are very much in control of their lives – yes there are external stimuli but its all about having a direction and hence using all stimuli (be it negative or positive) in a right way.

    In a few days, I’ll be posting one of my ”projects” on my blog, and I would appreciate it if you gave your comment on it. 🙂

  2. uncle jub kisi ko bohat ghussa aye and we know that we are right and the person keeps misunderstanding us without trying to understand what we mean and outrage us, then ?

  3. Fairy Dust

    Welcome

    Comicsans

    Yeh hi to baat hai ! I tell you a “goor”. When you are very angry on some-one, behave as if you are simply not affected and you will see the person who wanted to see you in turmoil, is herself / himself in turmoil. She / he will not again make that effort.

  4. Uncle, I must admit thats the biggest compliment anyone can EVER give me. JazakAllah.

    Also, comicsans I try not to discuss/talk to people who are never willing to see things from another perspective – in my opinion they’re the most ignorant people in the world. But I guess your example was a bit mild (:P). But yeah, simply ignore such people. Thats what I do.

  5. Uncle, I would be more than honoured to be under your ”wings”. Agar main aapki mooridi iktheyaar kar loon, tho insaan ko aur kya chahiye? I think, I am going to learn a lot from you, and I’ll be more than happy to.

  6. SORRY UNCLE BY MISTAKE I DID ANNON..:)
    SUBHANA AGAR SAAREY POINTS AAP LEY GAYIEN TO UNCLE SEY HAMARA HISA KHATAM HO JAYE GA. J/K
    UNCLE SUBHANA IS RIGHT U R VERY LEARNED AND A PERSON WE YOUNSTERS NEED FOR ADVISES..
    by any chance do you know Hussain Ahmed Ansari from Shifa manzil bhopal?

  7. Your reaction was expected, ”I am an ordinary person”. You might be an ordinary person but a man of great knowledge. And knowledge is the key to success.

  8. Mashallah. I am so honored to have stumbled upon this weblog and found a wise person like you. 🙂 There must be a reason for this too because a friend of mine taught me that nothing happens without a reason.:)
    I shall soak up all the wisdom this weblog lets me 🙂

  9. Comicsans, Subhana and Fairy Dust
    Please have pity on me. Do not inflate me that much, I am liable to burst. If you can spare time, please, visit my Urdu blog at http://iftikharajmal.blogspot.com/

    Comicsans
    I presume that you are a young girl. Please do not envy, I have unlimited stock of good wishes, specially, for nieces. I believe that a person who does not share his/her experiences with others should better have been illiterate. No, please, I do not know Mr Hussain Ahmed Ansari from Shifa manzil Bhopal. Of course I know Dr Abdul Qadeer Khan from Bhopal! By the way, are you from Bhopal? If so I want to learn lot of things from you.

    Subhana
    “یا اللہ یا عزیز الحکیم مجھے علم عطا کر کہ میں ان نیک دل بچیوں کو مایوس نہ کروں” ۔ بیٹی انسان جو کچھ بھی ہے اللہ کی دی ہوئی توفیق سے ہے۔
    سب کچہ دیا ہے اللہ نے مچھ کو
    میری تو کوئی بھی چیز نہیں ہے
    یہ تو کرم ہے میرے اللہ کا
    مجھ میں ایسی کوئی بات نہیں ہے

    Fairy Dust
    Please do not soak to much, you have to care for many other important things 🙂 . Have you ever stubled on my Urdu blog?

  10. Hussain Ansari is my nana.nana is from bhopal he is a muhajir.Najma Ibtullah is my nana’s Bhanjee. My amma and abba are from karachi.
    Qadeer Khan is a great man. May Allah help those Muslims who help thier muslim brothers.

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