F’s for a Happy Marriage – Part – 3

I had written seven F’s of a Happy Marriage on September 15 and nine on October 12. Here are some more

17. Frank:
Marital relationship is where the partners must feel safe to speak their mind with due consideration to the other’s feeling, without compromising their own views. When the communication is not frank it hinders in the development of closeness and deep understanding of each other’s inner self.

18. Facilitator:
When choosing our life partner, we must, as the Prophet (SAW) advised, look for a practising Muslim as such a persons’ goal is the pleasure of Allah which makes them an excellent facilitator (someone who makes things easy). In essence, the couple facilitates their family’s commitment to Allah and His Deen.

19. Honest Flattery:
Paying compliments and indulging in honest flattery is an inexpensive way to win spouse’s heart. Everyone likes to be appreciated and noticed. So being stingy about compliments is actually depriving oneself of being appreciated in return.

20. Fulfilling:
To be in love means to give one’s all. The heart does not put conditions or make stipulations. It gives without expecting anything in return. Such selfless giving is always rewarded tenfold.

21. Fallible:
Sometimes our expectations are so high that we lose focus of the fact that we are fallible (not perfect/make mistakes) beings. When couples start to nitpick and demand the impossible they must remind themselves that only Allah is perfect.

22. Fondness:
So many times couples fail to work on developing fondness for each other by failing to see their spouses as people through the eyes of their respective friends. Spending quality time alone doing and sharing activities are ways in which one can develop fondness.

23. Planning:
Smart couples plan for their future together. They work on their financial and retirement plans, make wills and discuss these plans with their children. This provides peace of mind and secures the relationship

To Be Your Best Self

The good you find in others, is in you too.
The faults you find in others, are your faults as well.
After all, to recognize something you must know it.
The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well.
The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.
The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.

Facts of life

Everyone always tell their friends they will be ‘Friends Forever,’ but how often does that last?
They might be best friends one year, pretty good friends the next year, do not talk that often the next year, and do not want to talk at all the years after that.

So, one must say to the friend, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life, I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you.

Remember, everyone needs a friend someday you might feel like you have no friends at all, just remember this post and take comfort in knowing somebody out there who cares about you and always will.