12 habits that can cause unhappiness, but can be avoided.

1. Chronic Complaining
Happy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say… even when those around them are happy! The bottom line: we all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end these circumstances are ours – fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere.
2. Being critical – of self and others
How we talk to ourselves shapes our self-image, for better or worse. Self-worth is an essential component to our happiness, and feeling good about ourselves is a right that we all have. Realize when mistakes are made, accept them, and move on…don’t engage in negative self-talk. Further, respect the inherent differences of others and recognize their right to live happily and without undue criticism.
3. Living beyond means
We live in a materialistic society, one where we are constantly bombarded with advertisements for the latest car, gadget, or credit card; all promising an easier, more fulfilling existence. Don’t believe it for a second. While purchasing a new product may provide a needed emotional boost, it doesn’t last. Ever heard the term “buyer’s remorse”? It exists for a reason. Instead, seek out something to do that doesn’t involve whipping out a piece of plastic – exercise, reading, sightseeing, etc. – anything brings satisfaction without the debt.
4. Negative addictions
Most things are good in moderation – food, a drink or two, entertainment… it’s when these things take center stage in our lives that it becomes a problem. Unfortunately, many good people have met their end through addictive habits, especially through dependence on alcohol and drugs. A great preventative measure and remedy to these addictions? Finding and living our passions to the greatest extent possible (see #8).
5. Regretting the past
Regret is not only useless, it can be extremely harmful. Research continues to show that repetitive, negative thoughts about decisions made in the past in often a precursor to chronic stress and depression. According to Psychology Today, there are four ways to cope with regret: (1) learn from mistakes but don’t dwell, (2) if nothing can be changed about the situation to let it go, (3) make sure too much blame is not being undertaken, and(4) reframing the situation more positively.
6. Worrying about the future
We only have so much say in what our future holds. This is not meant to disempower (quite the opposite); rather it is stating simple truth. What we can do is live in the present while fully exercising our God-given abilities and talents, enabling and empowering us to live a happier existence. There’s that phrase again: living in the present. Face difficulties as they arise and let them go. Enjoy the beautiful things in life and experience them fully…be present.
7. Being driven by fear
Yes, fear can be an enabler to unhappiness. To fully understand this, we have to again go back to being present. Quite simply, we can’t allow fear of the unknown (and/or the unavoidable) to cripple our quality of life. Fear is a negative thought process that is often on auto pilot. Remember: we are not our negative thoughts. We are not fear, worry, anxiety, or any other negative thought process.
8. Delaying goals and dreams
It’s relatively easy and effortless to get caught up in the routine of life: working, eating, sleeping, maybe even a day or two of doing something fun or relaxing. But here’s the thing: by not directing our talents and passions toward a positive and tangible goal, we potentially discard something great before its realization. The hardest part of living out our goals and dreams is taking the first step. After building a game plan taking that first step, only then can we see the possibilities.
9. Gossiping
Nothing exudes unhappiness and insecurity more than negative small talk about someone else. After all, why would a happy, confident person engage in something that is of no benefit? They wouldn’t. Gossip is something to be left to the kids at recess, not to adults attempting to make their lives (and others!) better.
10. Holding grudges
Similar to other negative emotions, animosity is a needless weight on our backs. We are all witness to the negative behaviors of other people and can become (sometimes justifiably) angered as a result. But remember: this isn’t about their ignorant behavior; it’s about your happiness. Either forgive, forget, or ignore… and move on with your life.
11. Eating poorly
Ingesting nutritionally-bankrupt food is all about immediate gratification. It’s certainly not about feeling good long-term, as eating poorly can result in bad health, weight gain, depression, lack of energy and decreased productivity; while having a well-balanced diet results in an entirely opposite effect – more energy, a healthy weight, mental alertness, and increased productivity. Eat right, look great, and feel great.
12. Expanding our problems
When we experience unhappiness and discontent, our first reaction is almost entirely emotional. In other words, we blow things completely out of proportion. After all, we still have that darned “lizard brain” (amygdala) – the epicenter of negative emotions. Instead, just take a step back, look at the problem objectively (with minimal emotion), and focus on a solution!

Pains Linked To Emotional Stress

One of the things that Western medicine practice has unfortunately widely ignored is the connection between your body and your mind, spirit, and emotions. Human beings often experience connections between the physical and emotional, but a lot of us just aren’t paying attention. Start your journey to true holistic health by watching for these signs.
1. Pain In Your Head
Pain in your head, like headaches, can be caused by stresses of the day. Take some time to relax and ease the stress every day
2. Pain In Your Neck
If you feel pain in your neck, you may have trouble forgiving others or yourself. If you’re feeling neck pain, consider the things you love about people.
3. Pain In Your Shoulders
Shoulder pain may indicate that you’re carrying a heavy emotional burden. That’s where the saying “shouldering a problem” comes from. Focus in on some proactive problem solving and distributing some of that burden to other people in your life.
4. Pain In Your Upper Back
Upper back pain means you don’t have enough emotional support. You may feel unloved and unwanted. If you’re single, this may mean it’s time to go out on a date or two.
5. Pain In Your Lower Back
Lower back pain might mean you’re too worried about money. It may be a good time to ask for that overdue raise or consider a financial planner.
6. Pain In Your Elbows
Elbow pain speaks to your resistance to change in your life. If you have stiff arms, you may have a stiff life as well. Make compromises and shake things up a little bit.
7. Pain In Your Hands
Hand pain means you may not be reaching out to others in the way you should be. Consider making new friends, having lunch with a co-worker, and making a new connection.
8. Pain In Your Hips
Hip pain means you’re too scared of moving. Sore hips could indicate that you’re resistant to moving on and changing. You might be too cautious when making decisions.
9. Pain In The Knees
Knee pain can be a sign that your ego is a little too big and that you’re thinking of yourself a little too highly. Humble yourself. Spend some time volunteering. Remember, you’re mortal

Easy Wat to Improve Memory & Concentration

It offers real help to those with learning difficulties, autism and Alzheimers disease.
In fact, anyone whose memory is not as sharp as it should be can benefit from this exercise.
EEG (Electroencephalography) scans show that it synchronises right and left sides of the brain to improve thinking and memory.

This quick and easy exercise improves poor memory, lack of concentration, clumsiness and emotional instability

Main Points of the Exercise

Stimulates neural pathways via acupressure points in the earlobes
Synchronises the right and left side of the brain to improve function and promote calmness
Sharpens intelligence in seniors, juniors, mums, dads and kids, that is, benefits anyone of any age.

Helps those with autism, Asperger’s syndrome, learning difficulties and behavioural problems

Is fast and simple to do – takes just 1 to 3 minutes a day

Exercise Instructions

Make sure you are wearing comfortable clothing and have removed any ear jewellery before starting. Avoid doing the exercise immediately after eating.

Step 1: Stand with your feet about shoulder distance apart, toes pointing forward.

Step 2: Hold your right ear lobe between your left thumb and finger, with the thumb on the outside of the lobe

Step 3: Hold your left ear lobe between your right thumb and finger, again with you thumb on the outside of the lobe. You should now be holding both earlobes with your arms crossed over your chest, right arm on top

Step 4: Look directly ahead and commence doing a body squat by slowly bending your knees and lowering your body toward the floor. Go as low as you comfortably can and then slowly raise yourself back to a standing position. Exhale as you squat and inhale as you stand.

Step 5: Repeat the squats for 1 to 3 minutes, or 14 – 21 times, while continuing to hold your earlobes.

Results may be immediate or gradual. Concentration should certainly be stronger within 3 weeks. The exercise only needs to be done once a day but if concentration wanes it can be repeated as often as desired.

Please click here to watch a short video to see how it is done

Over half a century back, when I was in school, perhaps our teachers knew this technique that is why they used to direct the student to do it in the class if he had forgotten or not learnt his lesson

Long Absence ? ? ?

I am sorry for my long absence (29 days) from internet and hope that I will be pardoned, it being my first long absence, and that not being my personal control.

No! I didn’t commit any crime to be behind bars.

On September 28, 2010, at about 07:15 PM, I was waiting on brink of the road for traffic to stop so that I could cross the road. I don’t know what happened but when I opened my eyes, I was lying on a hospital bed in Intensive Care Unit and over 20 hours had passed

Doctor’s remarks on the C T Scan were:

1 . Basal Skull Fracture
2. Incident Cyst at posterior Fossa
3. Calcification along superior Sajital Sinus

I had 24 wounds and 9 impact-marks on my body. About a dozen were really hurting. Centre of impact was my face. My upper jaw received big impact from front, as a result, I couldn’t open my mouth more than a centimeter. Now, I can open my mouth (normal) but I still feel pain in my front teeth. Nose received severe impact resulting in profuse bleeding mostly inside which was vomited out by stomach. My forehead received the severest and dangerous Impact. My blood hemoglobin went down to 10 gm

Before I woke up after Coma, doctors” panel was considering the following possibilities:

1. Death
2. Consistent Coma
3. Alive with blindness
4. Alive with mental disorder
5. Remote chance of survival

Now, after 28 days, I still have Vertigo for which I am taking heavy dose of medicine, My head is some-what numb and my nose is numb. Still have pain at various parts of body that received impact. I am not allowed to tilt my head forward, backward, right or left nor I am allowed to bow down. Further, I have been advised to prevent even slightest jerk to head. For the last 6 days, I have been allowed to slowly walk to dining room for eating and read or write for NOT more than half-an-hour at a time not more than 3 times a day

According to Neurologist (a Professor), It will take another 4 to 5 months to recover.

Well wishers and good-hearted persons, please, pray for my full and quick recovery.

May God bless you all

– – – – – – – Before the accident – – – – – – – – – – – 18 days after the accident

DRINKING WATER ON EMPTY STOMACH

It is popular in Japan today to drink water immediately after waking up every morning. Furthermore, scientific tests have proven its value.. We publish below a description of use of water for our readers. For old and serious diseases as well as modern illnesses the water treatment had been found successful by a Japanese medical society as a 100% cure for the following diseases:
Headache, body ache, heart system, arthritis, fast heart beat, epilepsy, excess fatness, bronchitis asthma, TB, meningitis, kidney and urine diseases, vomiting, gastritis, diarrhea, piles, diabetes, constipation, all eye diseases, womb, cancer and menstrual disorders, ear nose and throat diseases.

METHOD OF TREATMENT
1. As you wake up in the morning before brushing teeth, drink 4 x 160ml glasses of water
2.. Brush and clean the mouth but do not eat or drink anything for 45 minute
3. After 45 minutes you may eat and drink as normal.
4. After 15 minutes of breakfast, lunch and dinner do not eat or drink anything for 2 hours
5. Those who are old or sick and are unable to drink 4 glasses of water at the beginning may commence by taking little water and gradually increase it to 4 glasses per day.
6. The above method of treatment will cure diseases of the sick and others can enjoy a healthy life.

The following list gives the number of days of treatment required to cure/control/reduce main diseases:
1. High Blood Pressure (30 days)
2. Gastric (10 days)
3. Diabetes (30 days)
4. Constipation (10 days)
5. Cancer (180 days)
6. TB (90 days)
7. Arthritis patients should follow the above treatment only for 3 days in the 1st week, and from 2nd week onwards – daily.

This treatment method has no side effects, however at the commencement of treatment you may have to urinate a few times.

It is better if we continue this and make this procedure as a routine work in our life. Drink Water and Stay healthy and Active.

This makes sense .. The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals ..not cold water. Maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating!!! Nothing to lose, everything to gain…

For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you.
It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion.

Once this “sludge” reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food.. It will line the intestine.
Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.

A serious note about heart attacks: •
Women should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting,
• Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.
• You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack.
• Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms.
• 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up.
• Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep..
Let’s be careful and be aware.. The more we know, the better chance we could survive…